First published at 05:51 UTC on November 21st, 2019.
A dysfunctional need is a coping strategy, acting as a buffer between feeling that limiting belief. We organize our whole lives around our dysfunctional needs because we don't want to fill that limiter.
One example of a limiting belief and dys…
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A dysfunctional need is a coping strategy, acting as a buffer between feeling that limiting belief. We organize our whole lives around our dysfunctional needs because we don't want to fill that limiter.
One example of a limiting belief and dysfunctional need pairing is, "I am responsible for everyone" and then the dysfunctional need that comes out of that is feeling like you, “literally have to take the reins on everything”. That one is interesting watching it play out because peoples, "I am responsible", is actually a really positive way to orient in the world and it's not that it's not, in some context, but when you feel that pressure so strongly in every facet of your life... It's going to have a really negative impact on your mental health because no one can possibly be responsible for everything and everyone.
What would you say to people who are worried that you're going to take away the good outcomes of the belief?
I would just remind them that what we're doing, is we're taking away the distress. We're not taking away the belief system and we're not taking away the functionality behind it. We're literally working with it so that it's no longer distressing in your life. So that you then have that choice of, "Is this functional for me is this a positive way to move through life?", or is this something you're doing coming from a place of distress and feeling like you need to be this way and there are no other options you.
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